Hi James,
I sense you are looking for more. If you are really interested in the “big picture,” it is suggested to expand your horizons beyond sexual explorations and intimacy. These are undoubtedly important components of our spiritual journey, but there is so much more. A daily deep meditation practice is the best place to begin exploring your infinite depths. There are many additional means for cultivating lasting inner peace and happiness. You can find them here, including detailed information on how sex ties into the overall process of human spiritual transformation. Tantra is about much more than sex.
All the best on your path!
The guru is in you.