Hello everyone,
I wonder how you deal (or have dealt) with stressful situations related to education of young children.
My daughter (3y) is really sensitive and she demonstrates lots of aggressivity, where she could simply smash our baby boy (3months) for no reason. Another example I have to physically force her to dry her hair while she was shouting, as my wife isn’t physically strong enough to do this. I can feel so much anger coming out of me, so I grabbed her cheek and today I hurt her. I immediately regreted my action, but couldn’t changed it.
In despite of all these hours sitting and practicing DM, having tasted the sweetness of letting go, preaching non-violence to my pupils and all around me I’m now feeling like a fraud. I couldn’t get away from it, it was too strong and it simply shortcuted my mind.
It really sucks when you try to climb some steps to the higher, at every time and for one bloody moment you fall down so many steps. Maybe it has to be that way.
Maybe you have something to share that would help me ! Love, Niels
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Hi Neils,
It is not easy raising small children, having done it with three here many years ago. Be as patient as you can, and know that “this too shall pass.” Someday they will thank you for your steady hand and heart. Have faith. The “terrible two” (and three) stages will pass. Better days lie ahead. Each stage comes with its own rewards and challenges. It is a teaching for both children and parents.
Make sure to get your meditations in, as these will help. All the best!
The guru is in you. 
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Dear Niels,
A 3 yr-old can easily get pretty jealous when a baby is added to the family. The baby will naturally be needing more attention than the child, “replacing her” from her point of view. Such a relationship between child and new baby has to be carefully managed and best managed during the pregnancy phase, where you start to make the child understand that the baby is hers. Her sibling.
Day 1 - place the baby in her lap and let her tend and connect to it.
Perhaps you and your wife have already done this, but if not, you now need to find a way to allow her to connect emotionally to the baby. Then she will fall in love with it.
After disciplining a child and when things have calmed down, it is good to follow up with a good dose of love after - a hug, a cuddle, some quality time, stuff along that line, to show that she is still very much loved.
Good luck!
Sey!
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Hello everyone,
I had a terrible day when i wrote my last post, but now its ok. The day after we both got into hugs and shared so much love. All the evil from that day weet away 
@SeySorciere she has a beautiful relatolnship with her brother, we did exactly as you suggested. To our great luck, the coming of the baby didn’t get her in too much trouble.
Thank you immensely @yogani for your answer, the practices are of a huge help in my life right now. I couldn’t even think in which situation i would get without the practices !
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