Hi,
is anyone here practicing celibacy for spiritual reasons? If not, how often do you masturbate/have sex in general?
I try to reduce orgasm to limit one time per week… but sometimes it twice a week!
Welcome Subnaut
There is no one correct answer for this, as we are of different genders, ages, relationship status, and stages on our spiritual paths. If you are young, and without a partner, once a week would not hinder progress too much. I have noticed with the arising of inner silence over the years, and with automatic vajroli established, not to mention being in my sixties, the need for simple orgasm is greatly diminished, compared to the opportunity of residing in waves of ecstasy and bliss that resist cresting, and dissipating.
Yes, Dogboy is right. I am male, 27 age and single. Once or even twice a week doesn’t change anything on my spiritual path…
In spiritual texts, you can sometimes read that celibacy is not advisable due to the strong effects that can arise. AYP is a powerful practice. It recommends the blocking and holdback method. Usually, celibacy is not advised since a lot of sexual energy can build up. The holdback method does not release this sexual energy. This can be a problem for sensitive people, right?
(Edited the most important word in the paragraph.)
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Hi SubNaut
Being celibate or in couple doesn’t affect Tantra, it’s how you do the practices. Tantra doesn’t care about your personal situation. What is important is to be ready for it, Tantra won’t work to it’s full potential unless you have inner silence and extatic conductivity well developed. Otherwise you are only masturbating or making love and holding or blocking your ejaculation, anyone can do that with a little practice.
Tantra is mainly about deep meditation, pranayama and other sitting practices done twice daily and regularly. Tantra is cultivating the sexual energy before the orgasm and preserving it by not ejaculating.
So if you are ready and have ectatic conductivity well established you will enjoy Tantra wether you are solo or in couple. Having done both I can tell you that there is a lot more enjoyment in doing it in couple and that it wont affect your spirituality in any adverse way as long as you limit ejaculating to once a week or so.
Cheers
alain
Well stated, Alain. Inner silence and conductivity spurs the opening of the shushumna. Sex changes from outward expression to inner expansion. My heart has opened to devotion.
Dogboy
Some sexual energy is still lost with the holdback method, just not as much.
Some sexual energy is still lost with the holdback method, just not as much.
Hi GreenTea,
Did you mean to say “with the blocking technique”, or with the holdback method?
In my experience, the holdback method increases sexual energy over time.
Hi Tristan. Sorry, I was thinking of the blocking method where you press a finger to the perineum. I’ll have to read more about holdback.
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Hi GreenTea,
So yes, with the blocking technique where one or two fingers are pressed against the perineum at the point of orgasm, some spiritual energy is usually still lost.
With the holdback method, where slowing things down keeps the practitioner well away from orgasm, no spiritual energy will be lost.