Hello,
I’ve been practicing more intensievely for two weeks, and today my wife felt a strange presence in her body, she was mentionning the fact of being separate from her body, and was also feeling “wider” that she always used to be.
My hypothesis would be that purification happened in her body instead of mine, since I didn’t have this symptoms.
I share a deep connection with her, on every level including sometimes telepathy. She’s also truly spiritual but not into yogic practices.
It was disturbing for her, so i’m trying to “cut the rope” between my practices and her, but I just don’t know how. Maybe by removing my wedding ring while doing DM ? Has anyone also encounter this ?
I just would love to hear your stories 
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Hi Niels Jacob,
It is suggested to self-pace your practice as if your wife’s symptoms are your own. Regarding how our practices may affect other family members, this is discussed in Plus Lesson addition 98.1:
Q: My wife and two teenage daughters do not practice meditation very much, but all three have recently experienced major energetic openings with ecstatic experiences, and some discomforts, which at least in part seems to be related my own practice and inner openings. My practice is aggressive, and while I am prepared for the accelerated growth, I am wondering if it is the best thing for my wife and children. My wife and I are also into tantric sexual practices, which may or may not be contributing to the sudden openings. Are you familiar with such interconnected experiences in families, and can you offer any suggestions on how to proceed?
A: My wife and I are both long term practitioners, and we raised three children many years ago (they are grown now, with their own kids). All of our kids were affected by the practices that occurred here while they were growing up, but not in dramatic energetic ways as you describe. Times have changed, with the spiritual connectedness between people on the rise, especially among family members. It is a new dawn, with opportunities and challenges on the path for all of us.
Regarding how to handle excessive purification and opening in our family members, appearing to be due to our own practices, the answer is simple - self-pace your practices as if these excesses were your own. When we are married with children, our life path is to serve their best interests. So our practice and how we handle it is not only for us. It is for them also. If they are experiencing excessive purification and opening with discomfort, then we should start by self-pacing our own practice.
If their symptoms continue to be excessive, and they are not engaged in practices themselves (if so, they should also be self-paced), then a review of Lesson 69 on kundalini symptoms and remedies is suggested. It will be good to encourage healthy grounding activities, getting out regularly and doing things that are not necessarily spiritually related, and other measures in Lesson 69 that may be appropriate. It is all about finding a balance between our practices, family life and work in the world. With that, we can find good growth for all concerned, with the opportunity for more growth than we could experience otherwise without the family dynamic. It is all connected.
Make sure to discuss these matters with your spouse, so you can be on the same page with regard to the dynamics involved. Also make sure to self-pace any tantric practices as may be necessary to stabilize any excess energies that may be running around in the family.
It is important not to focus too much on the energetic experiential aspects, whether they be high or low, which can aggravate the symptoms. These energetic experiences are effects of bhakti, practices and group dynamics, and it is important not to over-engage in them as causes. In other words, deliberate efforts to manipulate energies is not recommended. Better to take measures as suggested, and release in stillness any intentions we might have about specific experiences. The more attention we give to energy experiences, the more energy they will have, and this can end up becoming a significant distraction on the path. This is why we often advise to regard energy experiences, visions, siddhis/powers, etc. as “scenery” along the way on our spiritual journey through life. This can be conveyed to our children in benign ways, much the way we comforted them when they were very small and worried about “the monster in the closet.” In time, all of these experiences transmute into useful components of our enlightenment as we evolve and grow, and we as parents can do much to smooth the way for our kids at any age simply by keeping calm in our abiding inner silence.
Also see Lesson 256 on teaching yoga to our children, for more suggestions on how to approach the subject of spiritual development for children at various ages. Communications with them should be light and appropriate for their age, without undue heaviness. Our children look to us for support, not for excessive burdens of spiritual responsibility. It is our job to make any openings they are experiencing as smooth and transparent as possible for their benefit, so in adulthood they will be able to find their own path and proceed with minimal residual obstructions. So self pace for them, and keep a balance between practices and daily living for all in the family. It is going to be all right.
These are amazing times. All the best to you and your family!
The guru is in you.
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Hey! This is interesting to me as I have noticed things with my wife.
I don’t think removing the wedding ring will make a difference, but it probably depends on the person.
It will be due to your ecstatic radiance, energy spreading from your body will be causing purification in her.
I suppose you could go sleep across the street for a while 
or self pace.
As you know this has to be a safe and comfortable ride for all of us 
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I’ve seen similar things with my partner. Backing off my own practice a little, adding more grounding activities (walks, time in nature, etc.) and making sure we talk about what’s happening really helps. It seems to settle down when everyone feels safe and not overwhelmed.