Here, now as we are, in the human experience, the sexual urge in us is programmed and largely hormone driven. Along the path of spirituality, we encounter conflicting views on whether celibacy is important or not, presumably based on the belief that we need to preserve what is called ojas, the life force, a concept that gets confused with semen as thought to be the fluid that rises up the spine during kundalini awakening.
As someone whose kundalini awakened spontaneously and to a reasonable degree, let me then affirm clearly that celibacy has nothing whatsoever to do with the kundalini activation. If it did, then it should not have awakened in my case but it did, so thatās that.
Next, Iād like to talk a bit on sexual practice in tantra. Tantra has in fact been wrongly clubbed as sex oriented, whereas this is not the case. In the Vijnana Bhairava Tantra, which is basically a dialogue between Lord Shiva and Parvati Ma as Shakti, Shiva lists out 112 meditations or techniques for God-realisation. Out of these, only two meditations relate to sexual practices and the key in the practice is to surrender the sexual act to God, whilst visualising that the kundalini is rising chakra by chakra and with esoteric breath control involved. In short, best left for the aghoris, shamans or whatever, those ascetics who actually live lives in the wilderness in that manner and who have received guidance directly, face to face, from masters well versed in such matters.
I write this simply to keep in focus that the aim is God-realisation, not in indulgence related to body-mind, which is a vehicle we are using but which is not our true being.
Surrender is the way, no doubt but should be attempt surrendering the sexual act, when we can neither control our thoughts, passions or senses? Let us instead make humbler beginnings, such as awakening love in our heart, purifying our thoughts, in mindfulness slowing down fears and desires rooted in attachment, honing reflex instincts such as anger, jealousy, hatred, lust and the like.
I know of at least one person who engaged in tantra sex as a rapid route to ascent and he lost his sanity. So not so humorous after all, hence Iām cautioning against this.
Choose resting in silence and stillness till it becomes our default orientation. Ultimately know that we are the all but also we are not, meaning ego is not. As ego thins out, we ascend, in as entwine, meld with universal consciousness. So ask, who aspires? Or to fall back on Ramanaās inquiry, āwho am I?ā
God bless.