Thank you, Chaz. Wise words. Things happening on their own accord. Effortless whispers in the treetops. Firm thumping on the ground. Squirrels, bumble bees, human sub-creatures.
Ahhh…to quote Morpheus from The Matrix: “There is a difference between knowing the path, and walking the path.” So maybe I know about some principles and patterns, but have I experienced the fullness and fruition I so desire? That’s the trick. When vision and desire become achievement. Action (including non-action) leads to fulfillment.
Stay strong, wolf warrior. 
still thinking about this post BT.It has been almost 1 year since i stopped my last monogamous “relationship”.This year was tough in the purification, lots of mind stuff coming out for exemple:
it is greener on the other side
i should have found a life time partner by now
i am 36, the clock is ticking
i need sex with a man
i need to be loved
endless mental rambling…and all of it has been seen through (hopefully) …all are mind lies…
then suddenly,since 3 weeks something totally changed.I became Happy. Happy with everything happening in my life , “the good and the bad.” I am laughing all the time!
On the sexual level, I became totally satsifeid with myself, by myself, with my inner male and female together
now i am not easily excited to be with a partner, i prefer to be by myself cause first i feel there is still more to explore in me and second i want a partner that is the same level of me spiritually…have been meeting few guys lately all spiritually green, well i dont feel it works , i feel i have nothing to say when they bombard me with “mind questions” 
That’s awesome. Sounds like you have a very healthy space of detachment that could only be a result of abiding serenity. When I am firmly rooted in that emptiness, I feel the same. Doubt, regret, frustration, disillusionment…these vibrations do not strike to the core, but rather exist on the periphery of mind. The eye of the storm is forever calm, as the madness swirls around it. Mind is not enemy. Mind is friend. Mind is window into reality.
As you beautifully put, there is more to explore.
Wonderful place to be Maheswari
We are not promised happy relationships Bodhi . What we are promised is all the tools and methods to evolve . May be in your previous life you had plenty of love and family happiness 
… and now this is missing to create searching and suction from new ideas and sources .
May be Maheswari is on the right way looking for someone spiritual because this will be honest sharing without secrets , tantric sex will find use as well 
It will be interesting to hear more stories about relationships started after spiritual awakening , as 37 yo single I am into this subject too… 
LOL. Well, the evolutionary tools should lead to happy relationships, yes? What good is a tool that won’t get the job done? I think I’m just a novice when it comes to using the tools, and with time, some level of mastery will arise. Maybe. 
I like your synopsis that destiny may be creating a challenge for the sake of development. I’m a fan of Joseph Campbell’s proclamation that each person is the hero of their journey. The power of mythology.
Thank you. 
Just to challenge you–and myself–a little bit, my dear Anima, let me put before you a contemplative nugget that emotional intelligence is something worth factoring into the equation, especially for fellows like you and me, who are skilled in the craft of language and concepts, but are still learning to play the strings of the heartspace, which requires an intelligent finesse that surpasses our scholarly knowledge. [OM]
Love, my brothah!
Thanks, Bodhi for the post. I finally got my postnatal massage after reading this post. 
. Had been putting it off.
Great conversations
Sunyata
For those seeking spiritual partners of their calibre…
Of what possible use would that be? How would that help you grow?
Better to have a totally non-spiritual one and watch him/her smash our Equanimity to bits and then laugh at ourselves.
Sey
as long as it doesnt end in a divorce
as long as it doesnt end in a divorce
I've watched more than one person come to know themselves on a deeper and more intimate level through a divorce, so, wouldn't necessarily say that a relationship that ended in divorce is less beneficial than a relationship that didn't. Definitely a difficult road to travel though I imagine. Love, Carson :+1:
Good point. I was married, and the best thing my wife ever did for me was leave me. Woke me right up! A splash of cold water to the face, and then boom!–I shifted gears and started to get my act together. Thankfully, we are still on good terms and can speak, hug, reminisce, etc.
The road is crooked. The path is winding. The spiral melts the boundaries of logic and well-laid plans.
Sweet!
Divorce is like any other bump on the road , it is an eye opener if we are willing to see and learn
i was just saying that deep down we all long for an easier road to travel
but it will happen as it is meant to happen 