Hi, I apologize in advance to all of you. I know there are searches to find things here, but I do not understand any of the subjects. I am just a simple guy who has been in a relationship with a woman who does all of this. She does all astrology, astral travel….all of it. I am unable to do what she does, and while I’ve always had the ability to “feel” energy from others, I am on uncharted ground when it comes to this. I can’t ask her about this because it directly involves her.
A brief description to not waste your time.
We have been together for 30 years. The moment I saw her, her energy grabbed a hold of me, and I have been connected to her ever since. No matter the distance (I’m a truck driver) even 3,000 miles away, I remained connected. If I looked at my phone, her call would come in minutes. I could feel how she was feeling at any given time. It was so strong and has influenced my life greatly for 30 years.
Last week she got angry at me and told me that she pulled away from me. The result was the most horrific thing that I have ever been through. For hours I felt like I was falling backwards, my heart pounded out of me, and I felt like I was trying to hold on to something with every ounce of my being.
It lasted for 6 hours before I finally passed out at 4 a.m. When I woke up everything had changed. I still can’t sleep a full night, my concentration is bad, and worst of all I can no longer feel her energy.
I feel lost and alone with no direction. Can somebody please help explain this to me?
So sorry to hear of your distress with the perception that your partner of so many years is withdrawing energetically from you. It is a complicated situation with no easy answers. But clearly your partner has felt an imbalance that is causing her to withdraw. What to do about it? A couple of things come to mind.
First, if you have not already, talk with her about it to see what her concerns are. That could give you some clues on what you can do from your side to make things better in the relationship. Not suggesting to take up astrology, astral projection and other things she may feel are important. But at least seek to understand what is happening in the relationship energetically.
Second, it may be time to come to terms with your own spiritual condition, and what if anything you have been doing about it besides relying on her energy for your peace of mind and happiness. Relying on others in that way can signify an imbalance in the relationship, which sooner or later can lead to a break. And if it does not lead to a break, is it really fair for one partner to provide all the spiritual energy for both partners forever? There is something you can do to help balance the relationship energetically, and that is to begin a simple daily meditation practice like is offered here in AYP. See Lesson 13 for basic instructions on that, or the small Deep Meditation book. The point is you have the ability to cultivate your own spiritual energy, which emanates naturally from the abiding inner silence that can be cultivated in twice daily 20 minute sessions. Perhaps time to do something along those lines from your side. It could make a difference. No guarantees of course. Relationships are complicated.
Just a few suggestions. Wishing you all the best as you move forward.
And as we say here,
The guru is in you.
(meaning we all have it within us to grow spiritually, if willing to do something about it)
Yes, energetic connections can form between people, and people can energetically sever these connections. Sometimes this can be felt by the other person, even at a distance.
She said that I severed the link. The problem with that is we have been through many things in 30 years, some very stressful situations and I never once thought about or desired separation from her. When she told me that she pulled from me, I certainly didn’t want to accept it and later that day I feel like it was taken from me without my consent.
Would I have been able to do this? Is this something that I would be capable of?
I have barely the ability to feel energy from anyone. I can do it but not with any strength.
No, severing connections in a relationship is a conscious act. So, it is not something that you could do without knowing it.
I would say to follow the advice that Yogani gave above. Talk to her and explain how you feel. Also, if you are drawn to it, cultivate a daily meditation practice. At the end of the day, attachments lead to suffering, so if we can cultivate a way of being in the world where we have no attachments, then we also live a life free from suffering. Then, whatever happens is fine, whatever it is. Meditation is the key to leading a life free from attachments and free from suffering.
So attachments are bad? I thought an attachment to someone is a good thing, but the way you put it made me understand otherwise. I have been told throughout the years that my path is meant to be alone. That always felt like it was true.
Someone can be in a relationship and love their partner deeply but not be attached to them in any way. Similarly, someone could be single but have attachments towards many people.
Whether to be in a relationship or not is a choice, but whatever you choose attachments do always lead to suffering. So, if we don’t want to suffer, it is good to take steps towards that.
I don’t want to suffer…..I never wanted to suffer and it’s been a hard long road. What bothers me the most is that she claims that I severed the link by myself (I don’t even understand the process) and in the same breath tells me that she’s still linked to a previous relationship (a guy who treated her bad) from 3 years before we even met.
If I can sever a link, can’t she do the same?
Either way I feel better after getting another opinion.
I’m looking forward to trying meditation this weekend.
