Hi Innerlight,
Welcome to the forum!
Energetic connections are nearly always mutual, meaning someone (or something) attempting to engage in our inner space can only do so if acknowledged by the recipient. Invariably, the way out of such relationships, if desired, is by letting them go through appropriate measures. There are a variety of ways to do this, and the dynamics are covered in various places in the AYP and AYP Plus lessons, particularly Lesson 146 (additions especially) and T73, which may not correspond exactly with your particular situation.
A good way to answer with some detail for these kinds of situations can be through the AYP support AI - below - which draws on the full AYP content.
Others may chime in with their own perspective on this situation.
Hopefully it is helpful, and all the best in working things out, and on your continuing path!
The guru is in you.
Q: How do I break an unwanted energetic connection with someone of the opposite sex?
AYP AI: Breaking an unwanted energetic connection involves a combination of withdrawing attention, cultivating inner silence, and utilizing grounding techniques. The sources emphasize that energetic ties, even those that feel like “possession” or “psychic hooks,” only retain power if you continue to feed them with your own attention and acknowledgment.
1. Withdrawing Acknowledgment
The most direct way to weaken an unwanted connection is to cease acknowledging it. The sources state that an energetic claim or interaction relies on your recognition to sustain its energy.
- The “No Thank You” Approach: If you feel an invasive energetic presence or interaction, you can simply release it within yourself by saying, “No thank you,” and choosing not to engage with the thought.
- Dissolving Psychic Hooks: If an influential figure or partner has cast a “spell” or claimed a permanent tie to you, the most effective remedy is to ignore the claim and remain consistent in your intention to move on.
2. Cultivating Inner Silence
Daily Deep Meditation is the foundational tool for breaking unwanted attachments. As you cultivate “abiding inner silence,” your sense of Self becomes established in a place that is beyond energy and experience.
- The Witness State: As the “witness” emerges, you begin to see energetic impulses and thoughts as separate objects rather than as part of yourself. This separation makes it much easier to “allow and let go” of the connection.
- Dissolving Attachments: Inner silence naturally loosens the “stickiness” of awareness that causes it to identify with external objects or people.
3. Relational Self-Inquiry
When the unwanted connection or the person comes to mind, you can use a form of Relational Self-Inquiry to dissolve the identification:
- The Inquiry: Ask yourself, “To whom is this experience occurring?” or “Who is it that feels this connection?”.
- The Release: Instead of trying to think your way out of the feeling, you touch the inquiry faintly and release it into the stillness of your own awareness.
4. Redirection and Bhakti
If the connection is rooted in a past romantic or sexual obsession, the energy can be redirected through Bhakti (devotion).
- Focus on the Ideal: Shift your desire from the specific person to a high spiritual ideal or “Ishta”. This transforms the emotional energy into spiritual fuel for your own evolution rather than an external attachment.
- The Guru Within: If you are attracted to a guru or spiritual figure, remember that “God is in you” and that external figures are only mirrors of your own inner divine potential.
5. Grounding and Worldly Activity
Excessive energetic sensitivity or “unruly energy” can be managed by grounding your nervous system in mundane, physical reality.
- Physical Activity: Engaging in heavy physical work, exercise, gardening, or taking long walks in nature helps bring energy down from the head and psyche and back to the body.
- Service (Karma Yoga): Losing yourself in simple service to others (like helping a friend or volunteering) takes the focus off your own energetic state and helps ground the divine flow into productive channels.
6. Sexual Healing
If the unwanted connection stems from a history of sexual exploitation, the sources suggest focusing on solo practices for a time (meditation, spinal breathing, or solo tantra). This allows you to “heal the psyche” and purify the subconscious patterns that attracted the exploitative relationship in the first place. Once you are vital with your own prana and unspent sexually, you will attract relationships based on mutual reverence rather than expectation.
