Hi Sey
Your dilemma give me food for much consideration in how I live my life. My house is quite secure with an alarm and we are all very vigilant about making sure every door and window is secure before we even go to the shops for thirty minutes. And I don’t live in neighborhood with a high crime rate either.
The freedom you have of leaving your house open is beautiful and also your relative non-attachment to possessions is lovely. Byron Katie you probably know has a lot to say about possessions and, for instance, if someone asks her for the ring on her finger or even admires it, she says she will give it to them without a thought.
You clearly feel there is something wrong otherwise you would not be angry and I wonder to what extent if at all you are enabling him by not applying “fierce compassion”. Are you being a “doormat” because for instance this may be a pattern for you in this kind of situation. Just curious about these kind of questions as they often get hidden in ideas of compassion and love for others simply because its nice to be nice and you are obviously a lovely compassionate person and probably being taken advantage of for this very reason.
The question I would be asking is - am I enabling him and if so is this compassionate towards him and also to me.
I am visualizing lovely white beaches in the sun and open doors on houses, sounds idyllic from over in rainy Ireland 
Thank you for the comments and question Sparkle, like the others contribution it does help me examine my motives. This is the first such situation so I can’t comment on repeated pattern here, but if you are asking if maybe I am afraid of confrontations, I am not. I am the Head of a team of 20+ men and known for my frankness and impeccability of word.
At first I ignored the stealing simply not to give it more energy and not to attach to what was happening. But then the repetitiveness of the stealing every couple of weeks started getting to me (engaging my energy). Even now, still discussing on this forum, while helping air my anger and enabling self-inquiry, which is on one hand good, is on the other hand still engaging my energy in drama.
This weekend I got the urge to completely empty my house - give away everything - except the bare necessities. I think I will do that.
Sey 
Is it freedom or attachment to the idea of freedom Sey is dealing with?
If you can lock your house OR leave your house unlocked and not have your emotions tangled by any of the two situations, that is freedom.
Attachment to the idea of freedom is still attachment.
Hi Sey, I find the inquiry into attachment to possessions quite intriguing for me and that is why I find your dilemma interesting. What am I happy to do without and what do I feel I need for a comfortable life.
I do get angry if someone steals from me. Not so long ago someone stole a couple of things from my garden, I too was fairly sure who it was but couldn’t prove it. I did report it to the Garda and put a small amount of energy into investigating it but there came a time when that energy was better spent somewhere else and I dropped the whole thing. So I see where you are coming from. To have it repeated then is a hassle.
I’d be interested to know if it the loss of possessions that makes you annoyed or the fact that someone is invading your privacy or something else?. In any case please let us know how you get on.
Blueraincoat, you said:
Is it freedom or attachment to the idea of freedom Sey is dealing with?
I’ve no idea, that’s something you need to ask of Sey 
Yes, it was a question to Sey, or rather a question for Sey, in case she finds it useful to ask it - I don’t really require an answer, but hope and pray the events will turn out to be positive in the long run.
@Blueraincoat - we attach to all sorts of things. What I am attached to is my freedom of choice. Here, I feel someone is trying to take away my choice; the choice of leaving my door open and my things lying around. True Freedom is when one is not bothered by whether the door remains open or not. One can be equally free behind closed doors. But I am not there yet.
@Sparkle - I am not bothered by the loss of possessions - that maybe because they did not steal my books! - but mostly jewellery, expensive, but just jewellery. And invading my house is to me no invasion of privacy (that much I have progressed, I am not my house). I am bothered by the person being two-faced and lying and I am bothered at having to lock things away, lock doors - hence change in life-style. I am bothered having this negativity come into my consciousness. Plenty there to inquire and process.
Thank you friends for taking an interest in the matter.
Sey
Are you sure about that? The more I hang around the spiritual network, the more I respect and admire the leaders whose character has evolved to become firm in the basic necessities of life: survival, craftsmanship, abiding by the necessary boundaries, and so on. There’s even the story of Jesus chasing the money-changers out of the temple because he did not condone a laissez faire, open-door policy in his sanctuary.
I think true freedom can only come once we have instilled proper habits until they are more or less automatic. Spontaneity and improvisation will always have room, but without the basic mechanics in place, such versatility and mobility will be lacking a solid foundation.
Your house and your possessions are extensions of your consciousness. In the same sense, my house and my possessions are extensions of my consciousness, and your’s too. Therefore, it is all ours to share, but again, we share using boundary conditions and agreements, right? I’m not trying to be smug about this; I write because I have been navigating similar territory, and I find these points relevant to our dilemma.
In summary, lack of care or concern for possessions does not necessarily equate to true freedom, and I would wish for you to protect your material realm, the same as your interior realm.
Stewardship and care for what is right in front of me is a step I have missed when seeking total transcendence a little too fervently. That was my addiction to drugs and alcohol in a nutshell. The progression of life as a human creature follows these stages: dependence (children), survival (adults), enlightenment (becoming full of divine love).
Sorry for the rant. Wishing you the best in this predicament!
@BT - You make valid points. Am I sure about the statement above? Nope. I was just sprouting what is said about True Freedom. I have not experienced it. What I am experiencing from years of AYP is - like you point out above - habits that are more or less automatic. And sometimes I also do something, just because I know that it is the right thing to do, despite my first conditioned instincts. I stop to ask “what would love do?”
I think it all depends a lot on where we come from in life with respect to setting boundaries, the issues we have had to deal with along the way. Some do not set boundaries because they lack confidence to do so, then that becomes something they must over-come. But as one gains confidence in setting boundaries, then one may happily reduce or do away with boundaries with no cost to the self (& obviously Self). Others set boundaries (miles away) because they are full of fear. The balance, I think, is when one has the confidence to choose.
Sey
I have started the task of emptying my house. Ladies at work are enjoying shoes!
That is an experience and lesson in itself. There are things my hands hover over and move on. Other things are easily bagged for give away.
Sey
“Business” always has to deal with inventory at some point!
