True Radhrani…lying very still is the peak of tantric experience. …not the jumping all around in excitement. …the latter is only the first and rather shallow layers of the experience
May I sat something that many won’t like & just my opinion.
Sex is sex.
I’ve had sex that last all day long with previous fiance and later on ex boyfriend .It was only after coming to AYP I found out that we were naturally & unintentionally practicing tantric sex.Although none of them were spiritual seekers.
Allah…Inner Silence doesn’t need sex you know!
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Evannon,
You wrote: “Does it ever happen that you feel one of you has crossed the border into a more egotistical, anticipation-based “lust” but the other one says (or acts:) “No, I’m right here, this is perfect LOVE still!” ?? And if so, how do you negotiate that?”
I can only answer from my limited experience from a few former tantric partners, and don’t know if it’s true in any general sense at all. It has absolutely happened that one is in full presence, while the other is “sinking in frequency” into ego-identification. If the one holding the space can do that for the other without being drawn down, it’s beautiful. A lot of healing usually takes place, cleaning the sex/lust in the more low frequent partner. I seldom, if ever, experience that I am more into lust than my partner if he is able to hold space. I easily tune in and rest with him. Should we both lose ourselves, the body usually protests with stiffness, or a cleansing takes place rather quickly by itself - emotions coming up, ending the act. Feels like there’s very little choice. And no compromise. I find it difficult to compromise with Truth. Either I’m lost in illusion and ego-identification/separation. Or there is resting in What Is. For me, the two perspectives are mutually exclusive. And the latter includes the “both”-thing: we are Life AS individuals.