Hi everybody,
Sorry to hijack the thread, but my question is very much on topic with Jack’s. I am also a 26 year old male who wishes to control his ejaculation, and I thought that posting here would be preferable than opening a new thread.
I currently ejaculate 2-3 times a week. I am not concerned with porn or masturbation addiction (I watch porn and I’m proud! ;). Instead, I have noticed that ejaculating makes me quite tired, sometimes for a full day afterward; even when I don’t ejaculate, I end up wasting a lot of time masturbating to porn when I could be doing something more productive.
My objective is to transmute my sexual energy into productivity toward my goals and my purpose instead of dispersing it by masturbating and ejaculating. I also wish to build stamina for bedroom fun.
A couple weeks ago I started with Zen meditation, pelvic floor exercises and spinal breathing. Do you believe it would be helpful if I only ejaculated once a week instead of 2-3 times? Would blocking ejaculation and mulabandha also be helpful? Any other tips?
Thank you! 
Hi Ishmael,
Yes, I would advise to cut down your masturbation. This is my experience, but I feel holdback and blocking method are risky in terms of going over the edge, as sometimes you go too far. Better to not masturbate at all, the urges die down after few weeks.
Hi Ishmael
Everything in moderation. As you have said you want to preserve and cultivate your sexual energy. So to do so you can either be celibate http://www.aypsite.org/T9.html or use the holdback and blocking which are in the tantra section http://www.aypsite.org/TantraDirectory.html We are all individuals so you will only know for yourself when you are doing too much. Once a week might be right or two weeks, a month… etc.
Blocking is the ‘training wheels’ when you have gone too far. It helps because it encourages vajroli. http://www.aypsite.org/T30.html You might as well try it rather than ejaculating the traditional way. You might still feel the effects of blocking; i.e. fatigue etc but they may not be as pronounced. Still, doing too much of that could have a negative effect. You’ll only know for yourself.
All the best!
Thank you woosa and ak33. I just have a few more questions, if you’ll be kind enough to answer, and then I’ll stop hijacking this thread.
How will I know when I’m doing too much? Will I experience a drop in energy, or will the sexual energy become “too much” for me to recycle it, to the point where sexual thoughts start distracting me too much?
Also, should I try to gradually stretch the periods longer and longer? I last ejaculated 8 days ago and I’m feeling more confident and more focused (I believe it’s thanks to spinal breathing). I don’t feel an urge now, and if I do usually a few deep breaths help, but it is slowly getting a bit more challenging.
Should my aim to ejaculate as rarely as possible, within reason (e.g. without going crazy)?
Thank you!
Hi Ishmael
When ecstatic conductivity kicks in you will be more aware of what affects it. From there you will probably not want to put a damper on it by excessive ejaculations, as they can have quite an effect on it. So it’s up to you what you do to support your practice.
It sounds like you are happy abstaining for 8 days. If you are happy to continue carry on. It’s entirely up to you. As I say, when you progress with your practice you will know how best to support it.
I wouldn’t worry about having to masturbate - nothing will ‘back up’ and make anything untoward happening like your head exploding 
. But if you are going crazy then you know what to do… 
. You’ll know yourself how often is best for you.
All the best!
I agree with woosa. Don’t force yourself (for anything really). I abstain because I don’t mind it. If abstaining for an excessive period of time is causing you discomfort, obviously theres only one way to fix it. By going too far I meant orgasm.